- Trust your instincts.
- You can’t spoil a baby.
- If what you are doing is working for you, your partner, and your baby, great! Keep doing it!
- If what you are doing is not working for you, your partner, or your baby, it’s ok! You can change it!
- There are no magical times when you must start or stop something.
- No habit you create now is irreversible.
- And never forget, trust your instincts!
Today, I'm focusing on our second principle.
You can't spoil a baby.
In my house, I've done a lot of things that people claim will "spoil a baby" and that I definitely never planned on doing. I read lots of books when I was pregnant with my first, and I was determined to make sure I didn't set up any bad habits (you'll notice a lot of our guiding principles go together, see Principle 6).
Then, my daughter was born. We had a cosleeper attached to the bed, and I remember being awake, sitting up nursing her, watching the clock. I knew that she would nurse for about an hour, go back to sleep for an hour, and wake again. After a month or so, bleary-eyed, I discovered the side-lying nursing position. Instead of watching the clock, I actually had no real clear idea of her waking patterns. When she woke, I drowsily latched her on, and we peacefully drifted back to sleep together.
Some might say I was spoiling her by letting her sleep with us.
Today, she is a very independent three year old. She sleeps in her own room every night (although we make exceptions for thunderstorms, smoke alarms, and birthdays). I wouldn't say it spoiled her at all.
Then, there is my son. From the day he came home from the hospital, he practically lived in my ring sling. I woke up in the morning and hastily brushed my teeth and hair and threw on some clean clothes, then put him in the ring sling. I didn't know why he was struggling at the time (see my last post), but I knew that the ring sling calmed him. He cried when I put him down, and someone said that I was spoiling him by wearing him so much. In fact, he needed the closeness and upright position.
Today, he is an extremely active fifteen month old. He still likes to be up in a carrier, but he likes being on the go just as much. I wouldn't say it spoiled her at all.